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    <title>grayglacianqueen: jadelyn: naamahdarling: naamahdarling: peach-tea-rose: No matter how many...</title>
    <published>2020-06-27T18:25:18Z</published>
    <updated>2020-06-27T18:25:18Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/3fWDEee"&gt;https://ift.tt/3fWDEee&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;grayglacianqueen:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;jadelyn:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;naamahdarling:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;naamahdarling:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;peach-tea-rose:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;No matter how many times you fail to meet your own expectations, you have to forgive yourself. Despite contrary belief, dwelling on and badgering yourself over your faults doesn’t ever help you grow into who you want to be.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It’s like gardening: if your flower isn’t blossoming like you want it to, you don’t rip out its leaves as punishment for failing to satisfy you. You recognize the problem and figure out what’s going wrong with its environment so you can modify it, giving the flower a chance to bloom in its own time.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Accept your shortcoming or setback, forgive yourself, and figure out what’s going wrong so that you can plan for how to prevent it from repeating in the future. Thank your past self for trying in the first place and then give your future self the love needed to flourish.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I am almost affronted at how good and forgiving this advice is.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Flawless positivity.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Listen.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I read once, don’t remembet where or know if it’s true, that in order to train an animal and to remain good friends with it, you need a 5/1 ratio of positive vs. negative interactions. So for every interaction that the animal considers negative - pilling a cat, for example - you need FIVE positive interactions, such as treats, cuddles, play, or praise if you want to remain on the best possible terms with it.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This applies to your relationship with yourself.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If you aren’t positively interacting with yourself but are instead consistently berating, punishing, or being disgusted with yourself, you are 100% going to have a lot of emotional pain.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You aren’t perfect. Nobody is and nobody should feel like they have to be. You will make mistakes. And contrary to what a lot of folks, self included, seem to believe, being mean to yourself because you think you “deserve” it won’t actually help you learn or becone a better person.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;All it does is teach you not to trust yourself, and teach you that you will always disappoint yourself. You take on a toxic relationship with yourself where you play both parts. It’s terrible.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;So yes, you HAVE to learn to forgive yourself. You actually cannot grow effectively in the confines of a toxic relationship. Including one you have with yourself.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I know it isn’t easy, I have a hard time too, but it is so, so necessary.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You can’t hate yourself into being happy.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I don’t remember where I read this but it literally changed my life and how I approach growth and personal development. It can be hard to keep in mind sometimes, but it puts it in a way that’s hard to argue with.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Cat, who plays Boblem on &lt;span style='white-space: nowrap;'&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.dreamwidth.org/profile?user=nyxrising'&gt;&lt;img src='https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png' alt='[profile] ' width='17' height='17' style='vertical-align: text-bottom; border: 0; padding-right: 1px;' /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href='https://www.dreamwidth.org/profile?user=nyxrising'&gt;&lt;b&gt;nyxrising&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt; ‘s Life of the Party D&amp;amp;D show put this beautifully into words, and I cry each time I read these words:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;“You know, people are kinda like trees, kinda like a plant. So here’s how I see it: when a plant is not really growing, or if it’s decaying, you don’t get angry at the plant and go ‘why don’t you grow?!’ You try to feed it back into health, you know? And I think it’s the same with people. Instead of getting angry at yourself for things you might not like about you, you should try to nourish yourself. Back into health. Does that make sense?”&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/465215.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=465380" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <title>apolesen: babymyleopard: reblog Major Kira Nerys for everything...</title>
    <published>2020-05-30T10:25:13Z</published>
    <updated>2020-05-30T10:25:13Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2XgYpLe"&gt;https://ift.tt/2XgYpLe&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;apolesen:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;babymyleopard:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;reblog Major Kira Nerys for everything to be okay&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Major Kira Nerys makes sure everything is okay even if you don’t reblog her. She works whatever you do.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/441910.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=442039" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:434542</id>
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    <title>jadelyn: naamahdarling: naamahdarling: peach-tea-rose: No matter how many times you fail to...</title>
    <published>2020-05-28T09:25:35Z</published>
    <updated>2020-05-28T09:25:35Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2X9NbYU"&gt;https://ift.tt/2X9NbYU&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;jadelyn:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;naamahdarling:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;naamahdarling:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;peach-tea-rose:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;No matter how many times you fail to meet your own expectations, you have to forgive yourself. Despite contrary belief, dwelling on and badgering yourself over your faults doesn’t ever help you grow into who you want to be.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It’s like gardening: if your flower isn’t blossoming like you want it to, you don’t rip out its leaves as punishment for failing to satisfy you. You recognize the problem and figure out what’s going wrong with its environment so you can modify it, giving the flower a chance to bloom in its own time.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Accept your shortcoming or setback, forgive yourself, and figure out what’s going wrong so that you can plan for how to prevent it from repeating in the future. Thank your past self for trying in the first place and then give your future self the love needed to flourish.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I am almost affronted at how good and forgiving this advice is.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Flawless positivity.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Listen.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I read once, don’t remembet where or know if it’s true, that in order to train an animal and to remain good friends with it, you need a 5/1 ratio of positive vs. negative interactions. So for every interaction that the animal considers negative - pilling a cat, for example - you need FIVE positive interactions, such as treats, cuddles, play, or praise if you want to remain on the best possible terms with it.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This applies to your relationship with yourself.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If you aren’t positively interacting with yourself but are instead consistently berating, punishing, or being disgusted with yourself, you are 100% going to have a lot of emotional pain.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You aren’t perfect. Nobody is and nobody should feel like they have to be. You will make mistakes. And contrary to what a lot of folks, self included, seem to believe, being mean to yourself because you think you “deserve” it won’t actually help you learn or becone a better person.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;All it does is teach you not to trust yourself, and teach you that you will always disappoint yourself. You take on a toxic relationship with yourself where you play both parts. It’s terrible.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;So yes, you HAVE to learn to forgive yourself. You actually cannot grow effectively in the confines of a toxic relationship. Including one you have with yourself.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I know it isn’t easy, I have a hard time too, but it is so, so necessary.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You can’t hate yourself into being happy.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I don’t remember where I read this but it literally changed my life and how I approach growth and personal development. It can be hard to keep in mind sometimes, but it puts it in a way that’s hard to argue with.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/434523.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=434542" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:427300</id>
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    <title>thegingerpowers:</title>
    <published>2020-05-20T21:25:49Z</published>
    <updated>2020-05-20T21:25:49Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/3g2ywGl"&gt;https://ift.tt/3g2ywGl&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;thegingerpowers:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/427338.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=427300" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:422444</id>
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    <title>everythingfox:Stare into the void</title>
    <published>2020-05-20T20:26:07Z</published>
    <updated>2020-05-20T20:26:07Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2Zoi7Gm"&gt;https://ift.tt/2Zoi7Gm&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;everythingfox:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Stare into the void&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/422568.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=422444" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:419428</id>
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    <title>dozmuffinxc: catherine-elizabeth: love69web: PURE, QUALITY CONTENT My eyes just got HUGE.</title>
    <published>2020-05-20T20:25:39Z</published>
    <updated>2020-05-20T20:25:39Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2ANOdB1"&gt;https://ift.tt/2ANOdB1&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;dozmuffinxc:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;catherine-elizabeth:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;love69web:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;PURE, QUALITY CONTENT&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;My eyes just got HUGE.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/419463.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=419428" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:419039</id>
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    <title>dailytweets: This is what happens when a bubble freezes</title>
    <published>2020-05-20T20:25:38Z</published>
    <updated>2020-05-20T20:25:38Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/3cQIGYq"&gt;https://ift.tt/3cQIGYq&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;dailytweets:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This is what happens when a bubble freezes&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/418948.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=419039" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:407836</id>
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    <title>theactualcluegirl: openblogtomyabusivemother: Recovery</title>
    <published>2020-04-17T10:11:16Z</published>
    <updated>2020-04-17T10:11:16Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/3aijYye"&gt;https://ift.tt/3aijYye&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;theactualcluegirl:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;openblogtomyabusivemother:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Recovery is messy when you’re doing it right. 💙&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;So… just how many disgusting pile of goo transformations is one caterpillar allowed? Asking for a friend.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/407959.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=407836" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:398862</id>
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    <title>andersonsallpurpose:you have been visited by the cat of to do...</title>
    <published>2020-03-24T19:46:24Z</published>
    <updated>2020-03-24T19:46:24Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2UeAjPu"&gt;https://ift.tt/2UeAjPu&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;andersonsallpurpose:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;you have been visited by the cat of to do (void where prohibited, conditions apply)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/398992.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=398862" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <title>awed-frog:For all my fellow oversharers out there.</title>
    <published>2020-03-03T14:03:43Z</published>
    <updated>2020-03-03T14:03:43Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2TiFSfl"&gt;https://ift.tt/2TiFSfl&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;awed-frog:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For all my fellow oversharers out there.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/377688.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=377615" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:347497</id>
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    <title>christinaroseandrews: nudityandnerdery: This guy knows</title>
    <published>2020-01-01T22:50:13Z</published>
    <updated>2020-01-01T22:50:13Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/36h5IVe"&gt;https://ift.tt/36h5IVe&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;christinaroseandrews:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;nudityandnerdery:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This guy knows what he’s talking about. He’s one of the lead writers for Leverage and if you ever watch the series on DVD, do yourself a favor and listen to him talk about how the scripts got written. Some of the advice he has is stuff I use all the time:&lt;br /&gt;1. Don’t introduce an important plot person or thing after the first half of the story.&lt;br /&gt;2. Always tie up loose ends.&lt;br /&gt;3. Introduce important things in the middle of unimportant things.&lt;br /&gt;4. If you have to infodump, find an emotion to tie it to and it will seem less like infodump and more like a motive rant.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Seriously this guy knows how to write.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/347639.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=347497" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:329273</id>
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    <title>redheadgleek:As yet another fanfic writer deleted all of their writing in the last couple of weeks,.</title>
    <published>2019-12-31T20:48:39Z</published>
    <updated>2019-12-31T20:48:39Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2QbZjFe"&gt;https://ift.tt/2QbZjFe&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;redheadgleek:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As yet another fanfic writer deleted all of their writing in the last couple of weeks, I wonder how many people are aware that you can disassociate and orphan your fics on archiveofourown once you’ve decided to leave a particular fandom.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;“Orphaning is a way to remove your connection to your works without taking them away from fandom altogether.  We hope this account will be used by people who wish (for whatever reasons) to retire from fandom but are willing to allow their works to remain in the Archive.  Works orphaned in this way will be maintained by the Archive to be enjoyed by future fans; existing bookmarks and links will not break.  This function means that users can continue to share their contributions to fandom while having their privacy respected.”&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;AO3 has a great FAQ on how to do it here. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;as a reader I hope many people heed this. the idea of going back to reread one of my old fave fics and just finding it gone is a frightening one. I had that already, waybackbefore, before ao3, so please, please dear writers, use this power. please.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/329249.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=329273" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:324155</id>
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    <title>naamahdarling: naamahdarling: nervosityperson: theveryworstthi...</title>
    <published>2019-12-31T20:18:35Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2MLiXFP"&gt;https://ift.tt/2MLiXFP&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;naamahdarling:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;naamahdarling:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;nervosityperson:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;theveryworstthing:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;theveryworstthing:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;theveryworstthing:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;the fight is harder each year.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;gotta keep going because nothing ever stops.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;you deserve to be new and whole.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Can someone explain what’s happening besides someone being reborn?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;In the first comic, which is from the Warrior’s point of view, the Warrior has defeated the Monster, who jeers that there will always be another Monster to fight. The Monster dissolves into mist, leaving another tiny, baby Monster in its place. The Warrior picks up this helpless new baby Monster and carries it away. They will try again and do better this time.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;In the second comic, which is from the Monster’s point of view, the Monster says that this has to happen; it can’t come with the Warrior, and there will always be another.  It tells the Warrior to use what they have learned to fight.  It wants to die knowing that the Warrior has hope for the future.  It dissolves into mist, and the exhausted Warrior collapses. The new baby Monster comes and brings the Warrior some water in a leaf.  Because we are reading this in the Monster’s voice, we realize that it is a new Monster, but also somehow, magically, the same.  We also see that the Monster is not inherently evil.  It is only very strong, and inevitable.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The third comic is a dialogue between the Monster and the Warrior.  The Warrior is exhausted and horrifically wounded. The Monster is also horribly maimed.  They are both dying. The Warrior doesn’t want to fight anymore.  The Monster tells them to rest and heal. The Warrior hands over their amulet, and we see the Monster’s paw become a hand just before they both dissolve into mist.  It clears, revealing that the Monster has turned into a beautiful humanoid, who says they will take care of the new baby monster the Warrior has turned into.  The two have changed roles.  The Warrior takes up the former Warrior’s gear and strides into the new year with the new baby Monster riding on their shoulders.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It is a beautiful, ruthless, hopeful metaphor about keeping up the good fight, year after year, even when we are worn down, and how we can still face the new year with hope and light, no matter how painful the last one was, and how it is okay to rest if we can’t fight.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It’s not the new year, but things are so difficult for so many of us right now, and we are so worn down from so many fights on so many fronts, I feel like we could all use this again.  Love, rest, fight, love.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/324282.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=324155" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:306303</id>
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    <title>wetwareproblem: straight-outta-slash-b-slash: wetwareproblem: khrysoprase: wetwareproblem: wetwa...</title>
    <published>2019-12-31T14:48:14Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/36fYbGi"&gt;https://ift.tt/36fYbGi&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;wetwareproblem:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;straight-outta-slash-b-slash:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;wetwareproblem:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;khrysoprase:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;wetwareproblem:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;wetwareproblem:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Two important mental health lessons for the night:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;1. “My situation’s not that bad, other people need this resource worse” is something that people who desperately need the resource say, as a rule.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;2. “Am I doing enough?” tends to be asked by people who are doing all they reasonably can, as a rule.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The best part of this post is watching y'all call each other out in the tags.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Forget calling other people out, I’m calling myself out. @ me you need to hear this you dumbass.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Several people have done this and now THIS is the best part&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;well the other people who say it appear far worse than I appear to me so it must not be the case that I need help and I’m just not trying hard enough&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;…right?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Nope, you’re allowed to need help and support too.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/306216.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=306303" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:303035</id>
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    <title>thescouring: “Being able to feel safe with other</title>
    <published>2019-12-31T13:48:38Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2QdlkTX"&gt;https://ift.tt/2QdlkTX&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;thescouring:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;“Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives. Numerous studies of disaster response around the globe have shown that social support is the most powerful protection against becoming overwhelmed by stress and trauma.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Social support is not the same as merely being in the presence of others. The critical issue is reciprocity: being truly heard and seen by the people around us, feeling that we are held in someone else’s mind and heart. For our physiology to calm down, heal, and grow we need a visceral feeling of safety.”&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;—Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (pdf)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/302972.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=303035" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <title>potterheadsoftheworldunite:</title>
    <published>2019-12-23T21:25:45Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/34W7fPb"&gt;https://ift.tt/34W7fPb&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;potterheadsoftheworldunite:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/301102.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=301124" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <title>highvelocitysandwich: bomberqueen17: flavoracle: Mental Crop Rotation When farmers grow the same...</title>
    <published>2019-12-23T20:55:45Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2PRhnnS"&gt;https://ift.tt/2PRhnnS&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;highvelocitysandwich:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;bomberqueen17:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;flavoracle:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Mental Crop Rotation&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When farmers grow the same crop too many years in a row, it can leave their soil depleted of minerals and other nutrients that are vital to the health of their fields.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To avoid this, farmers will often alternate the crops that they grow because some plants will use up different minerals (such as nitrogen) while other plants replenish those minerals. This process is known as “crop rotation.”&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;So the next time you find that you need to step away from a project to work on something else for a while, don’t beat yourself up for “quitting” that project. Give yourself permission to practice “mental crop rotation” to maintain a healthy brain field.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Because I’ve found that when that unnecessary guilt and pressure are removed from the process, a good mental crop rotation can help you feel more energized and invigorated than ever once you’re ready to rotate back to that project.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;: A crucial part of crop rotation is that the field is let fallow sometimes. You plant what’s called a “cover crop”, which is something you don’t expect to harvest– it’s there for its roots to hold the soil in place, and often it’ll be what’s called a nitrogen-fixer, i.e. a plant that can pull nitrogen out of the air and fix it into the soil with its roots (but sometimes it won’t, sometimes it’s really just there to shelter the soil surface), and then you’ll till in that cover crop, or let the frost kill it and the stalks lie as mulch, and then you’ll rotate productive crops back into that field the next season. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It’s important, though, to understand that during the fallow period, no nutrients are removed from that ground, and nothing is expected of it. Whatever the land grows then, it keeps, and it gets tilled back in or decomposes in place, to return its energy to the earth.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;We’re not allowed, in our current society, to just let our minds be fallow for a bit, to produce nothing for export, to make nothing that can be sold. But it’s part of good land stewardship, to give every field time when it doesn’t need to give you anything back. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;So yes, grow and produce different things from time to time, rotate them around your mind and exercise different mental muscles, take different things from your creative processes, yes– but also, give yourself a fallow spell now and again, and let the field of your mind grow things for itself to keep, to break down and save for later. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Positive mental health AND agriculture??!?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;*slams reblog button*&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/298213.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=298021" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <title>brunhiddensmusings: blackfitnessrocks: sashacoki:</title>
    <published>2019-11-23T19:31:26Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/33eFIrl"&gt;https://ift.tt/33eFIrl&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;brunhiddensmusings:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;blackfitnessrocks:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;sashacoki:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I’m&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/289222.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=289248" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:286398</id>
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    <title>iraprince: iraprince: HI IT’S ME AGAIN</title>
    <published>2019-11-23T16:26:19Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2KL1KeU"&gt;https://ift.tt/2KL1KeU&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;iraprince:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;iraprince:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;HI IT’S ME AGAIN&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;YOU’RE FUCKING UP YOUR TEETH AND YOUR MUSCLES AND SHIT&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;WHEN I CATCH YOU WITH ONE OF THESE I STEAL A FEW MINUTES OF YOUR LIFE FORCE. WHEN YOU ARE NOT CLENCHING WHEN YOU SEE ONE OF THESE, YOU GET TO STEAL A FEW MINUTES BACK. WE’LL SEE WHO’S LEFT STANDING IN THE END&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/286329.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=286398" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:286031</id>
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    <title>ultrafacts: 1. “State the idea you wish to</title>
    <published>2019-11-23T16:26:15Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2D9dxzd"&gt;https://ift.tt/2D9dxzd&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;ultrafacts:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;1. “State the idea you wish to express as clearly as possible, and in terms preschoolers can understand.” Example: It is dangerous to play in the street. ​​​​​&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;2. “Rephrase in a positive manner,” as in It is good to play where it is safe.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;3. “Rephrase the idea, bearing in mind that preschoolers cannot yet make subtle distinctions and need to be redirected to authorities they trust.” As in, “Ask your parents where it is safe to play.”&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;4. “Rephrase your idea to eliminate all elements that could be considered prescriptive, directive, or instructive.” In the example, that’d mean getting rid of “ask”: Your parents will tell you where it is safe to play.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;5. “Rephrase any element that suggests certainty.” That’d be “will”: Your parents can tell you where it is safe to play.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;6. “Rephrase your idea to eliminate any element that may not apply to all children.” Not all children know their parents, so: Your favorite grown-ups can tell you where it is safe to play.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;7. “Add a simple motivational idea that gives preschoolers a reason to follow your advice.” Perhaps: Your favorite grown-ups can tell you where it is safe to play. It is good to listen to them.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;8. “Rephrase your new statement, repeating the first step.” “Good” represents a value judgment, so: Your favorite grown-ups can tell you where it is safe to play. It is important to try to listen to them.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;9. “Rephrase your idea a ﬁnal time, relating it to some phase of development a preschooler can understand.” Maybe: Your favorite grown-ups can tell you where it is safe to play. It is important to try to listen to them, and listening is an important part of growing.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Source: [x]&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Click HERE for more facts&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/286114.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=286031" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <title>theactualcluegirl: alarajrogers: unpretty: stylish-suidae: madgastronomer: drharleyquinn-medicin...</title>
    <published>2019-11-08T21:00:06Z</published>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/34JKWMC"&gt;https://ift.tt/34JKWMC&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;theactualcluegirl:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;alarajrogers:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;unpretty:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;stylish-suidae:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;madgastronomer:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;drharleyquinn-medicinewoman:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;candiikismet:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;unpretty:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;ways i have tricked people into thinking i am competent:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;bought a really nice looking fountain pen&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;that sounds like a joke but fountain pens are cheap as shit and when you use one people look at you like you’re a fucking wizard&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;this hero 901 cost me $3 on ebay and i don’t know why people assume that this is a pen for intelligent people but they do&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;it works better when i am using a nice notebook and not the avengers notebook that makes it look like the hulk is grabbing my sweet pen&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;i write in code which for some reason leads everyone to assume that i am some kind of da vinci motherfucker, instead of the reality, which is that i am writing about dicks and don’t want anyone to know&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;it looks like i am constantly taking notes on everything which is both intimidating and inaccurate, just the way i like it&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;i bought a usb clicker/laser pointer for $11 and now it seems like i’ve got this shit on lock, like i am so pro at giving presentations i even own accessories&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;holding a clicker makes you seem at least 10% more like you know what you’re talking about i’m pretty sure&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;i check the weekly freebies on creativemarket every monday so now i have a huge folder of pro-looking website themes and powerpoint templates and fill-in-the-blank resumes (also a lot of autumnal clipart and watercolor flowers and script fonts but that is less relevant)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;i bought a ceramic coffee mug at world market years ago and it makes me look like a productive coffee-drinker because no one knows it’s full of hot cocoa&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;i don’t know why drinking coffee makes you look busy it just does even though i’m pretty sure it statistically reduces productivity&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;bonus: not only does no one know i’m just drinking Depression Chocolate but they think i am being Environmentally Conscious rather than Poor As Shit&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;extra bonus: i can take a sip whenever it looks like someone is going to ask a question and then they ask someone else&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;i almost never have to answer questions and i leave the room a lot because i have to pee constantly so double extra bonus&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;“That’s a very good question, and one that deserves an in-depth answer, so if you’d like to leave me your card I’d be happy to discuss it with you later one-on-one” aka “how DARE you suggest i waste everyone’s time answering this question right now” aka “lmfao i have no fucking clue what you just said please let me secretly google that okay”&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;bonus: now it seems like you are a sophisticated grownup who assumes everyone has A Card and if they have to settle for writing their email on a scrap of paper you can feel smug about it even though in your heart you know that you are no better&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;i’ve got anxiety and poor impulse control and anxiety about my poor impulse control so i generally say jack shit about shit and this constant silence is often misinterpreted as aloof observation&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;no one knows that my air of mystery is actually a bad case of the shy and i am too shy to correct them so it works out&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;when i’m on my laptop and i don’t want anyone to notice how much i’m dicking around i turn the brightness way down so they can’t snoop without being obvious&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;at least one window of notepad++ with some random html page or css stylesheet in it makes randos assume you are some kind of genius doing some genius shit, unless they are CS major randos, in which case i guess find an intimidating looking excel spreadsheet and hope for the best&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Wow&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This is AMAZING thank you for your life tips and guidance, friend&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If you want to intimidate most CS randos, have a doc full of SQL sitting there. Just copy it off W3 Schools, it doesn’t matter, most programmers are intimidated by SQL, even ones who use a little bit of it.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Millennial George Costanza&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;i hate that i can’t contradict this&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To be fair many of us SQL people are equally intimidated by programming code&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If all that fails, find or make a slideshow of photos of old cobol punch cards, to intimidate everyone except retired NASA engineers.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/268297.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=268319" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:225820</id>
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    <title>spoken-not-written: adriofthedead: ittygittydiddynator: balls-...</title>
    <published>2019-10-04T20:05:00Z</published>
    <updated>2019-10-04T20:05:00Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2OkWdy5"&gt;https://ift.tt/2OkWdy5&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;spoken-not-written:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;adriofthedead:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;ittygittydiddynator:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;balls-deep-in-idjits:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;notyouraverageloser:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;rah-b-loved:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;inkyblacknight:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;paradoxsocks:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;ihavemjolnirinmypants:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;withoutapresspass:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;cyborglovesong:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;UNITEDSTATESCANADAMEXICOPANAMALKFHDSHFSDKJCNOIDSUHFISUFN:SD&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I AM GOING TO MAKE LEARNING THIS THE OBJECT OF MY LIFE.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I always lose it at Cota Rica. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I ALREADY KNOW THIS BY HEART&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;United States, Canada,&lt;br /&gt;Mexico, Panama,&lt;br /&gt;Haiti, Jamaica, Peru;&lt;br /&gt;Republic Dominican,&lt;br /&gt;Cuba, Carribean,&lt;br /&gt;Greenland, El Salvador too.&lt;br /&gt;Puerto Rico, Columbia,&lt;br /&gt;Venezuela,&lt;br /&gt;Honduras, Guyana, and still;&lt;br /&gt;Guatemala, Bolivia,&lt;br /&gt;then Argentina,&lt;br /&gt;and Ecuador, Chile, Brazil.&lt;br /&gt;Costa Rica, Belize,&lt;br /&gt;Nicaragua, Bermuda,&lt;br /&gt;Bahamas, Tobago, San Juan;&lt;br /&gt;Paraguay, Uruguay,&lt;br /&gt;Suriname, and&lt;br /&gt;French Guiana, Barbados, and Guam.&lt;br /&gt;Norway, and Sweden,&lt;br /&gt;and Iceland, and Finland,&lt;br /&gt;and Germany now one piece;&lt;br /&gt;Switzerland, Austria,&lt;br /&gt;Czechoslovakia,&lt;br /&gt;Italy, Turkey, and Greece.&lt;br /&gt;Poland, Romania,&lt;br /&gt;Scotland, Albania,&lt;br /&gt;Ireland, Russia, Oman;&lt;br /&gt;Bulgaria, Saudi Arabia,&lt;br /&gt;Hungary,&lt;br /&gt;Cyprus, Iraq, and Iran.&lt;br /&gt;There’s Syria, Lebanon,&lt;br /&gt;Israel, Jordan,&lt;br /&gt;both Yemens, Kuwait, and Bahrain,&lt;br /&gt;the Netherlands, Luxembourg,&lt;br /&gt;Belgium, and Portugal,&lt;br /&gt;France, England, Denmark, and Spain.&lt;br /&gt;India, Pakistan,&lt;br /&gt;Burma, Afghanistan,&lt;br /&gt;Thailand, Nepal, and Bhutan;&lt;br /&gt;Kampuchea, Malaysia,&lt;br /&gt;then Bangladesh, Asia,&lt;br /&gt;and China, Korea, Japan.&lt;br /&gt;Mongolia, Laos,&lt;br /&gt;and Tibet, Indonesia,&lt;br /&gt;the Philippine Islands, Taiwan;&lt;br /&gt;Sri Lanka, New Guinea,&lt;br /&gt;Sumatra, New Zealand,&lt;br /&gt;then Borneo, and Vietnam.&lt;br /&gt;Tunisia, Morocco,&lt;br /&gt;Uganda, Angola,&lt;br /&gt;Zimbabwe, Djibouti, Botswana;&lt;br /&gt;Mozambique, Zambia,&lt;br /&gt;Swaziland, Gambia,&lt;br /&gt;Guinea, Algeria, Ghana.&lt;br /&gt;Burundi, Lesotho,&lt;br /&gt;and Malawi, Togo,&lt;br /&gt;The Spanish Sahara is gone;&lt;br /&gt;Niger, Nigeria,&lt;br /&gt;Chad, and Liberia,&lt;br /&gt;Egypt, Benin, and Gabon.&lt;br /&gt;Tanzania, Somalia,&lt;br /&gt;Kenya, and Mali,&lt;br /&gt;Sierra Leone, and Algier;&lt;br /&gt;Dahomey, Namibia,&lt;br /&gt;Senegal, Libya,&lt;br /&gt;Cameroon, Congo, Zaire.&lt;br /&gt;Ethiopia, Guinea_&lt;br /&gt;Bissau, Madagascar,&lt;br /&gt;Rwanda, Mahore[?], and Cayman;&lt;br /&gt;Hong Kong, Abu Dhabi,&lt;br /&gt;Qatar, Yugoslavia,&lt;br /&gt;Crete, Mauritania,&lt;br /&gt;then Transylvania,&lt;br /&gt;Monaco, Liechtenstein,&lt;br /&gt;Malta, and Palestine,&lt;br /&gt;Fiji, Australia, Sudan!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Omg thank u&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;THIS IS MY 17,000TH POST FOR A REASON&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I learned this song all by myself last year, and I bought a world map and I sing to it while I point out the countries. BOO-YEAH&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I will reblog this, every time it’s on my dash.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Fun fact! Rob Paulsen (Yakko’s voice actor) still knows this song by heart and will sing it when asked.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;sounds like yzma learning geography&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/225807.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=225820" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:94941</id>
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    <title>systlin: dancing-thru-clouds: elderflowercrown: lokean</title>
    <published>2019-03-20T10:16:40Z</published>
    <updated>2019-03-20T10:16:40Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2TkdAht"&gt;https://ift.tt/2TkdAht&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;systlin:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;dancing-thru-clouds:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;elderflowercrown:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;lokean affirmations™ &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style='white-space: nowrap;'&gt;&lt;a href='https://systlin.dreamwidth.org/profile'&gt;&lt;img src='https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png' alt='[personal profile] ' width='17' height='17' style='vertical-align: text-bottom; border: 0; padding-right: 1px;' /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href='https://systlin.dreamwidth.org/'&gt;&lt;b&gt;systlin&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt; I feel like this is accurate for both of us&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This is entirely correct and accurate. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/94880.jpg" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=94941" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:73025</id>
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    <title>luckytwodollarbill: autoimmuneamy: “Do you want</title>
    <published>2019-02-25T14:28:50Z</published>
    <updated>2019-02-25T14:28:50Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2E94y1c"&gt;https://ift.tt/2E94y1c&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;luckytwodollarbill:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;autoimmuneamy:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;“Do you want to talk about it or be distracted from it” is honestly the best thing you can say to me when I say im sad/in pain etc.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;this is really good advice to say to anyone who is upset&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/72964.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=73025" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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    <id>tag:dreamwidth.org,2018-12-04:3452007:24760</id>
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    <title>jellyfishdirigible: solarpunk-aesthetic: sassypixiestrashcan: no, listen, when I say I want to...</title>
    <published>2018-12-09T10:02:10Z</published>
    <updated>2018-12-09T10:02:10Z</updated>
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    <content type="html">via &lt;a href="https://ift.tt/2EaS5LT"&gt;https://ift.tt/2EaS5LT&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;jellyfishdirigible:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;solarpunk-aesthetic:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;sassypixiestrashcan:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;no, listen, when I say I want to integrate more specific solarpunk stuff in my life, i don’t mean to ask for yet again new “aesthetic” clothes that now you have to buy or make to show your support of the movement (screw that i’m consuming enough as it is), or more posts about impossible house goals, or whatever, I’m asking you what my options to build a portable and eco friendly phone charger are, im asking you viable tiny-appartment edible plants growing tricks on a budget,  im asking tips to slow down when my mind and society tell me im not fast enough, i don’t need more rich art nouveau amateurs aesthetics or pristine but cold venus project, okay, i know i should joins associations where I am tho i’m constantly on the move, thanks for that, just, you know, can we get a bit more practical ??? how do I hack my temporary flat into going off the grid for the time i’m here&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Hello! ☀️ Here are a few practical suggestions for stuff you can do: &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Make a bottle tower garden (a small one could do well on a windowsill) &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Make eco-friendly household cleaners&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Germinate strawberry seeds and care for the plants &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Grow plants from cuttings (you can grow almost anything this way) &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Make a sun jar &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Grow low maintenance houseplants &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Make a string garden &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Make a wall planter &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Germinate an avocado seed &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Make a shoe pocket garden &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Build a mini solar generator &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Re-grow kitchen scraps &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Find the right solar battery charger &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Recycle old solar cells &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Hope you find something useful in there! I post stuff up from time to time under my diy tag. Feel free to drop me a message if you have any requests!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;grow oyster mushrooms on waste coffee grounds (also works with shiitake)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;a list of some food plants that can grow indoors with reduced light&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;windowsill herbs&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;egg carton seed germination&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;germinate chayote and keep it as a houseplant (the root, stem, leaves, fruit, and seed are all edible)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;choosing a portable solar panel&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;tips for energy efficient apartment life (but jsyk LED is better than CFL, and a tank bank or expanding water bottle is better than a brick or bottle of gravel)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;DIY draft stoppers&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;DIY solar oven and recipes&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;evaporative refrigeration&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;use conkers/horse chestnuts to replace soap and detergents&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;use baking soda as dry shampoo&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;cleaning with vinegar do’s &amp;amp; don’ts and common myths&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;DIY dryer balls&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;apartment-friendly bokashi composting and DIY bokashi bran&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;DIY moss terrarium for your soul (ain’t many souls slower or more patient than moss)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;and a list of some easy care indoor plants for your nerves&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;and for your bathroom and your air quality&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;recycle t-shirts into yarn for your crafts&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://lupin5th.dreamwidth.org/file/24578.png" /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src="https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=lupin5th&amp;ditemid=24760" width="30" height="12" alt="comment count unavailable" style="vertical-align: middle;"/&gt; comments</content>
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